Saying “YES AND” is not always an easy thing to do...in fact there are occasions where we get offers that we want nothing to do with! What do we do in this scenarios? Well now that you’ve gone through happiness bootcamp with LaRee I think we’re ready to level up! It’s good to be back! I’ve missed you all

Wasn’t LaRee great??? I hope you enjoyed your time with her in PT bootcamp. I can see your happiness muscles have grown, you’re looking great! But now is not the time to level up and now that you’ve gone through bootcamp I want to hold an intermediate level happy practice today.

PLAY OF THE WEEK: 

When someone gives an undesirable offer to you VALIDATE and REDIRECT toward a mutually beneficial offer.

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What's going on, team happiness. It is so good to be back with you. I hope you enjoyed that. Magical grueling happiness bootcamp with LaRee wasn't that awesome. Look at you now with your happiness muscles, all tone, and you're ready to go. And you know, the plays. This is awesome. I am so excited today to hop back on the mic and to level up now that you've gone through the.

Bootcamp, I think it's time for an intermediate practice. So today we're going to talk about the next level of yes. And because let's be honest sometimes saying yes and accepting and building is not always an easy thing to do. And in fact, there's a lot of times where we find ourselves resisting offers and, there are things that come our way that we just don't know what to do with.

So we're going to dive deep into that today. And I am so excited. Jump in.

As always, we're going to kick things off with our highlight reel and look at a.

pro player on team happiness which actually is the Dutch government. So the Dutch government launched a campaign called the one against loneliness and with the pandemic, there's been a lot of isolation and unfortunately loneliness, but especially with senior citizens and older citizens who are more susceptible to getting.

From COVID. So what the Dutch government did is they launched a campaign and, what they do is a grocery giant chain called jumbo

is actually launching what they call chat checkouts at their grocery store.

and what these chat checkouts are for is specifically for you to have somebody to talk to as you're checking out at the grocery store and to make sure that the. Senior citizens have someone to talk to what a beautiful example of accept and build, and especially on an offer, that's not something anybody wanted to accept the pandemic and taking the opportunity to turn that into a positive as a grocery store.

I love this example, so well done Dutch government. That is a.

Okay. So last week, well, and for the last five weeks, Laurie has been working on you and helping you condition those happy muscles and train you. But specifically last week, she talked about look outward and she left this with an awesome play of the week. She coached us to think of a family member or furry friend or someone nearby to serve an.

How can I add value to you? So I gave this a shot with my in-laws and had an awesome connecting experience with my brother-in-law, who I just love dearly. But what I love about this play of the week that she gave us is that asking that question. It helped me think through how I could be of service in a new way that I hadn't before.

And that's different than asking what can I do for a person or how can I help.

The specific question, how can I add value to you is so good. And it helped me think of a very unique way to serve this individual. So how did it go for you? Did you follow through with Larry's play of the week? Did you give into the temptations of darkness and despair?

We want to hear about your experience. So please reach out and share with us.

Okay team huddle up here before we get into our practice, it is time for our team huddle. We had some awesome comments come through this last week in our feedback survey. So if you have filled that out, thank you so much that feedback and those insights we're getting through the happiness playbook survey is so valuable and insightful.

If you haven't done that yet, it is not too late. And we would love to get your thoughts. If you're listening to this right now, then that means you are. Team player, and we want your insights. So head over to play theory.org, it'll be right there, front and center on the homepage with a link to fill out the survey.

So that's very helpful. But what I wanted to share was actually a little bit of appreciative feedback that we got.

Ellie Farley said, play theory is awesome. With two exclamation points, I've been using it for the past five or six years. The happiness playbook reminds me to apply play theory in my everyday life. They discuss so many subjects that are so applicable to all people. I'm grateful for this super cool podcast smiley face.

Thank you, Ellie so much for your kind words. Those are the fuel that keep this happiness playbook train going. So we really appreciate that, Ellie. You're awesome. And if anyone else listening wants to drop us a line and put a little more fuel in that happiness playbook tank, then please go give us a five-star review on apple podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts and send us some feedback.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Okay, team.

all right. Let's get into our play by play today. We're talking about, except in. But in a unique way, and this is the intermediate practice. Okay. So we've leveled up. We understand positivity, optimism, accepting an offer and building on that offer. But what happens when there is an offer that comes through.

That is not only not desirable, but could potentially be harmful. Okay. This happens quite a bit. And we want to make sure that anyone listening to this podcast understands when we say accept and build, when we say yes, We're not saying you have to accept and take on and run with every offer that comes your way.

And in fact, there are some offers that come your way that are potentially harmful. And so what we want to talk about briefly today is how do we manage those situations?

I had the opportunity to do a play theory workshop very recently with an awesome group at Sandler training here in Utah. And we had a very insightful discussion around this topic. We were playing the game board meeting, which if you've played that in the past, it's a really fun exercise

that is based on the principle of accept and build and to look outward. So you all sit in a circle and you take turns planning, a fictitious event. We were planning an awesome 4th of July event. And if anyone from Sandler training is listening to this right now, make sure you execute the event. Cause it was amazing.

We had flamingos and hiking. So it was a lot of fun, but how the exercise works is one person gives out an idea and then everybody in the circle does a fist bump and says yes, and validates the idea. And then the next person in line in the circle has to validate the idea. So what happened was I gave out the idea and I said, for our 4th of July, I think we should have flamingos there.

And so everybody did the fist pump, they said yes. When it was the next person that's turned to go, they were immediately thinking of flamingos in their yard, where we were going to have the fictitious event. And they immediately said, well, I don't want a bunch of flamingos going poop in my garden. And it was so interesting because the offer, my offer of flamingos was rejected and we came back to it and did some coaching and this individual actually ended up validating in a beautiful way, my offer and said that the Flamingo droppings would actually fertilize the garden. So it was

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actually a good thing. And we kept going along and had this great experience. But in the debrief for this activity, it came up well, Hey, what if somebody really wanted to bring flamingos in my backyard?

And I didn't want that. And we had this great discussion about how to accept and build on undesirable offers. And these were the insights we had that I want you to take with you. If somebody comes to you with an undesirable offer and you could even say a harmful offer.

How do you accept and build that? Here's a little secret. You can always. accept and validate the intentions behind the offer. Okay. Very rarely are you going to find that somebody's intentions are bad if somebody's intentions are bad and they're trying to harm you? You may just need to remove yourself from the situation that's different.

Okay. But nine times out of 10, it's in the execution of an offer where the intentions fall flat. So let's go back to the Flamingo example. If somebody came to your house and they wanted to put flamingos in your yard, you could validate their intentions. You could say something like.

Wow, Neil, I am so glad that you want to spend time with me and I'm honored that you would approach me with this opportunity to hang out with you and your flamingos. Okay. Do you see what I did there? I validated the intentions. But that doesn't mean I'm accepting the offer and what you do after that validation is now you can redirect the offer into a mutually beneficial direction. If I don't want flamingos in my yard, pooping on everything and that's the offer and I accepted that is not mutually beneficial. Okay. I am not happy even if the other person is happy and that is how abusive relationships can start. That's how a lot of unhealthy relationships can form. So you got to find that middle ground in that mutually beneficial outcome and how you do that is once you validated the intentions, which you can do nine times.

You can validate those intentions. Another example would be, somebody wants to hang out with you and you just don't have time. Okay. That's a very tangible common situation, right? Somebody reaches out and they say, Hey, Neil, I want to go out to lunch. Can you go out to lunch with me? You don't have time.

And if you say yes to that, and you don't have time and you're stressed out, that is not mutually beneficial. And that can also result in that feelings toward the person or just unhealthy situation. So you want to avoid that? What you say is, oh my gosh, I would love to hang out with you. And I'm so glad that you reached out.

Okay. There's that validation you validated the intention and then you redirect, and this is how you do that. Let's start with the example of the flamingos.

We've already validated the intention and now we're redirecting. You know what we just recently put in our garden and it's kind of fragile. And so I'm nervous about having the flamingos in our yard, but I would love to do something fun and exciting like that. I know you just got a

new set of VR goggles. Why don't you bring those over? I'll bring some pizza and we can have a great time in hangout. Okay. Do you see what we did there? I still was trying to find an opportunity or an offer that was mutually beneficial. That would help the person giving me the offer feel satisfied, but also make sure that it's a healthy option for me.

So for doing the, going out to lunch example, you know, I would validate the intention. Thank you. I'm so grateful. You want to spend time with me. I'm glad you reached out. And then you redirect, and that, that sounds something like this this week is totally slammed. And Unfortunately, I don't have time this week to go out to lunch, but I'll tell you what, I know this really good place just downtown.

That has awesome tacos. Could you do early next week sometime so that we can still get together and have a good time and catch up? Do you see how powerful that is? There is a lot of power behind. Accept in build, but if it's misguided and you become a yes man and are saying yes to offers that are not mutually beneficial, this can drain you. This can make you bitter. This can ruin relationships and friendships and add in authenticity into the relationship. And we don't want that.

and I'll tell you right now is your happiness coach. I am a yes man. And I say yes to so many things and it often results in me being burned. Stressed out and unavailable to say yes to what really matters. And that is not happiness. We here at the happiness playbook want you to be fulfilled and we're not going to be fulfilled.

If we say yes to everything that comes our way to every offer. And if we think of accept and build as simply receiving everything into our lives, that comes our way, that's going to burn us out and that's not helping. So here is your play of the week that I want you to focus on. When an offer comes your way from another person.

When somebody approaches you with an opportunity, whether to hang out, whether to work on a cool new project or to go do something,

but you don't have time to do it. I want you to validate the intention, build them up in that way and accept that way. And then I want you to redirect the offer into a mutually beneficial situation.

There are some powerful phrases that can help you do this. You can start the validation by saying, I love how passionate you are about filling the blank, right? Or I'm so glad you reached out to hang out. I would love to catch up with you.

Okay. There's the validation, but then comes the redirect and you can always start it with an, a sympathetic. Unfortunately, I don't have time this week

state your truth and then build on that counter with an offer that's mutually beneficial.

This is some expert level stuff we're talking about here. So I hope you can take this with you into the next week and really experience a new depth of happiness that comes from an enthusiastic yes. And not a reluctant. Okay.

Just like the Dutch government took an undesirable, offer the pandemic and then counter offered with the chat checkouts. That is what we need to do this week. Okay. So validate and redirect its expert level except and build. But you got it. You've got your happy muscles, all toned up from the bootcamp with Lori, and now we're going to take it to the next level and really do some reps on those except and build muscle.

and if you want to go the extra smile, share a story or experience you have in the next few weeks with doing this, with that validation and redirect. Again, this is expert level play theory here, but we want to hear about it. So share with us. It is so good to be back. I missed you all and I am so happy to be hopping back on here and to be practicing and conditioning, these happy muscles with you.

You're not going to want to miss next week because we're going to dive into some sound bites from an actual workshop that I conducted and hear in real time, some things. That the participants had that were just awesome nuggets that I want to share with you all. So make sure to come and join us next week. 📍

you all are beautiful. Remember this week to validate, to redirect, to accept and build in positive ways that are mutually beneficial. Most of all, remember that happiness is a skill and the life is a team sport catching next week.

On today's show I sit down with Joe Anglesey and he's awesome. He's got a lot going on, he's got a YouTube channel (link below) that you should check out. We take a deep dive into some concepts that we've not gone into before on the show and I'm really excited for you to understand and learn more bout a unique angle of look outward!

This is a really fun episode because we took turns interviewing each other. And so what you'll listen to today is me interviewing him, and then we're actually going to release a bonus episode where he interviews me and I'm very excited, to kind of be getting interviewed for a change. And we dive into some really fun elements there as well.

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This Week’s PRO TIP is: Share your light filled message knowing that you cannot please everyone. Focus on those who you are serving.

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Today we I sit down with my dear friend Erik Eckern to discuss Play Theory in high pressure situations, navigating toxic culture, and how to build relationships. Erik is currently the director of marketing analytics with a team of 9 where they work with clients to improve their ad campaigns and marketing. Erik has taken the principles of play theory and applied them on his team and pushes his colleagues and direct reports to establish relationships with clients, collaborate with other groups at the office, and incorporate Play Theory principles into their daily interactions and motivations. He has 3 kids and has been married for 10 years to his beautiful wife.

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This Week’s PRO TIP is: Be bold and courageous in applying Play Theory in social settings. Start small by being present and not multitasking during meetings, then level up by asking sincere follow up questions to those you are serving.

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May the 4th be you! In today's very special episode of the Happiness Playbook, we look to the wisdom and truth found in Star Wars for inspiration. Buckle up and hang on as we dive deep into Star Wars and PLAY THEORY principles!

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This Week’s PRO TIP is: See the good in others, by thinking of someone that you do not get along with or that has wronged you. And then think of the good inside them... and WRITE IT DOWN.

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Today we let go and play, and chat about the relation between leaving your comfort zone and how that impacts your growth! You’ll even get to see me being bad at pickleball if you’re watching this on YouTube! Buckle up and said adios to the comfort zone because here we go!

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This Week’s PRO TIP is: Promote safe failure and learning by lowering the stakes of failure with those around you.

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In order to progress as humans, we must learn and develop skills. It’s a part of this whole journey we are on. When we were born, we knew nothing, we had no skills, and were entirely dependant on our parents. We had to learn to crawl, walk, and run and eventually do taxes, pay bills, fight parking tickets, do the laundry, wash the dishes, mow the lawn...Anyway! Growth and learning is a huge part of life. But we’ll only experience it if we are leaving our comfort zone and trying new things.

I made so many mistakes! But I committed to leaving my ego at the door and learning the sport. If you haven’t played pickle ball before, there are a lot of things going on...I mentioned a lot of the rules in a previous episode last year but playing myself and having to navigate the turns, the positions for each set which switch frequently, the number of bounces, the lines, and don’t even get me started on the kitchen. There is a lot of stuff going on!

Thankfully as I began, I had a very patient and skilled coach, the one and only LaRee Florence who is actually a FOUNDER of PLAY THEORY and produces the Happiness Playbook podcast. 

As I swung and missed, swung and hit too hard, swung and hit too soft, I began getting the hang of the rules, the right amount of pressure, and really enjoyed myself.

I learned how to juggle when I was a kid 

But after several days of diligent practice, I got the hang of it. It’s worth noting here that the more we lower the stakes, stay present with the task, and learn to enjoy the process, we will begin finding ourselves more open to letting go and playing.

Another key takeaway here is that leaving our comfort zone in the name of growth and learning and development is SO much easier when we have supportive people who are great at creating environments that promote that safe space for failure and learning to occur. This was my hot take right after playing pickle ball

Our pro tip for the week is to promote safe failure and learning by lowering the stakes of failure with those around you. You may not realize how critical or harsh you are being to loved ones even engaging in conversation. Lower the stakes by giving permission for fail;ure to happen. LaRee was great at this when teaching me pickle ball, she said, you’re going to mess up the serve and that’s ok, just imagine you’re trying to hit several balls in a row...how can you lower the stakes and create an environment that is conducive to learning, growth, and risk taking?

We must take risks in this life. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. While it’s nice to have supportive people around creating a safe environment to take risks, you won’t always have that. This is a muscle that must be developed, and it SHOULD be developed. The only way to growth, productivity and ultimately happiness, is to let go and play, and fail forward to a better tomorrow.

OUR FIRST VIDEO EPISODE! Today we are going to be ULTRA present! I am out here in nature, one of my favorite places to discuss the power of Be Present. This is also the first episode of the Happiness Playbook that we are going to put out in video form as well so if you’d like to see the full production, head over to our YouTube channel and check it out!.

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This Week’s PRO TIP is:

  1. Get outside! Go for a 30 minute walk and leave your phone behind if you can.
  2. Next time you sit down to get some work / homework done, focus on ONE THING at a time and write it down next to you on a piece of paper or whiteboard.

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As we bask in the outdoors today, we’re going to discuss the benefits of being present and “unplugging” and then some tips to help us put that in action. Let’s start with a poem by Paul Laurence Dunbar:

How many birds in your life are flying away in neglect? That’s a tough question to answer sometimes. And I recognize there are seasons of busy...Aubrea and I have had our fair share of busyness throughout our lives, but when distraction becomes our default setting the quality of our lives deteriorates dramatically. Happiness has been scientifically linked to the quality of our relationships repeatedly and if we don’t make time for our friends we won’t have any. But being present for others is not the only focus here and we know by now that us being present with ourselves, and calming down the chaos long enough to hear ourselves think, process emotions, and ideate is VERY important.

There is loads of evidence of the positive effects of going outside and detaching from technology. 

HEALTH BENEFITS

Aside from the obvious vitamin D benefits, on Forbes.com we read: “Hundreds of studies have linked spending time outside to better health outcomes like decreases in incidences of diabetes and cardio-vascular mortality, lower blood pressure and heart rate, and better immune system function. In fact, these positive effects that are so well-documented that more and more doctors are issuing “nature prescriptions” to help treat a range of conditions from heart disease, hypertension, high cholesterol, and diabetes, to chronic stress, depression and anxiety, insomnia and even PTSD.”

That’s unreal! What a cool thing that even in the medical community there is traction around the concept of getting outside and how beneficial it is. On particularly stressful days it is very helpful for me to get outside. And if you don’t live right next to nature, a park or stroll down a quiet street can have a similar impact.

MENTAL HEALTH BENEFITS

The change of scenary and fresh (or fresher) air can help us navigate stress and anxiety as well. On businessinsider.com the mental health benefits are highlighted as well:

“One study found that students sent into the forest for two nights had lower levels of cortisol — a hormone often used as a marker for stress — than those who spent that time in a city.

In another study, researchers found a decrease in both the heart rates and levels of cortisol of participants who spent time in the forest compared to those in the city. "Stressful states can be relieved by forest therapy," the researchers concluded.  Among office workers, even a view of nature out a window is associated with lower stress and higher job satisfaction.”

When you head outside, especially during stressful times (big presentation, tests, relational turmoil, or whatever it might be) you feel better. You get your blood pumping, you change your environment, and if you silence your phone or leave it at home, you’re able to better emotionally recharge and come back at the day with more focus and energy.

What do Tony Robbins, Candles, and fireworks have in common? Find out on today’s episode of the happiness playbook where we scuba dive in the beautiful reef of look outward with some truly great quotes and stories.

This Week’s PRO TIP is: The next time you are speaking to someone, I want you to say something nice about that person in your head. Watch how this changes your emotion, your presence, and your relationship toward that person.

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For today’s episode we are going to keep it jam packed with nuggets and keep the momentum going. We have 4 beautiful quotes that we’ll share and discuss that all have to do with the crown jewel of Play Theory which is Look Outward.

Dripping paint, curveballs of life, and the secret to true satisfaction...these are just a few of the golden crispy nuggets you can look forward to on today’s episode of the happiness playbook as we accept the good and the bad, and build upon life to create awesome-ness!

Neal shares some profound “Accept and Build” lessons learned during a duplex renovation that took place over the past few weeks. He shares below in the transcript.

This Week’s PRO TIP is: Think of something you are struggling to accept and build upon right now...and reach out to someone who can provide experience, tools, or insights into helping you accept and build your way through the situation.

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Not sure if I’ve brought this up already but my wife and I decided to renovate a duplex and jump into the homeowner scene and it has been a LOT of work. I couldn’t help but think of the beautiful play theory principle of accept and build as we quite literally accepted, tore down, and built upon a duplex to make it even more desirable place to live for our future tenants. 

There are all kinds of reason why the principle of accept and build was one i learned so much about as we embarked on this ambitious project and I am grateful for everyone of them:

First off you have to realize exactly how big a project lay before us and how little time we had to pull it off…

It didn’t take long to realize just how limited my skills were and how desperately I would need to accept my lack of skill and build as best I could using the collective knowledge of my family and YouTube DIY channels. A particularly tricky part of the renovation was cutting the countertops to fit the cabinets along side a not perfectly flat wall. I immediately knew that cutting the countertop just perfectly to fit against the sloping wall was going to require some advanced measuring and cutting that was beyond me. Thankfully I had my father-in-law there who provided not only years of experience that would come in handy, but also the very nice and effective tools including a table saw, squares and measuring tools, and many other gadgets that made it not only possible but infinitely quicker than it would've been if I were trying to accomplish the task by myself. This experience lead me to ask myself: “When there is a particularly hard or undesirable offer before me that I know there is no way around, am I seeking out those with the experience and tools necessary for me to accept and build upon these situations? We’ve all been there, seemingly insurmountable tasks and scenarios that make us want to curl up into a ball and sleep until it’s over. Maybe a hard test or project, maybe it’s a breakup or loss of a loved one. These hard and trying times can be mourned for sure, but it’s only in the acceptance and building upon them that we can continue creating and progressing in this beautiful life of ours.

The next accept and build lesson was learned several times during the project. We had several unexpected things happen that threw off our very strict timeline and made the project much more difficult. Whether it was cabinets not getting shipped on time, finding out the wall we were tearing down had concrete and chicken wire in it, or even discovering that the drill bit we JUST purchased was the wrong size for the hole we had to cut. There were so many curveballs, as we now know are inevitable during remodel projects, that came up and gave us the choice: to accept and build? Or to reject and remain unskilled. You can imagine how horrified I was when after loading up the paint gun we borrowed from my father-in-law and doing an entire coat of fresh paint, seeing that several walls had the paint run off completely due to the material and temperature of the wall. I begrudgingly accepted that what was going to be a rather simple 2-coat paint job taking only several hours, was going to turn into an all nighter requiring me to bring in heaters to dry the running paint, renting a sanding tool to grind off the paint and texture the walls, put on a thick primer, and only THEN be able to finish the paint job. I did indeed pull an all nighter but thankfully I had lots of good audiobooks, podcasts, and caffeine to get me through it. What helped me take the plunge on this undesirable turn of events was partly due to realizing just how high the stakes were since the flooring crew was coming in the next day and I HAD to have the painting done for them to get going on it. But it was also because I was able to stay present...this is where we see some of the principle overlap as we often do. If I had freaked out and gave into my anxiety, I’m sure I would’ve become paralyzed by the enormous task at hand and not gotten the job done, but it was only as I doubled down on the present and, again, relied on the knowledge, experience, and counsel of others much wiser than myself, that I was able to perform. How often in your life do you give in to the anxious stories about your future and become immobilized by the task at hand? It’s hard not to, but that’s why be present is the first principle in the PLAY THEORY soup and actually helps us accept and build especially on the curveballs of life and we all have those...curveballs can be especially hard because of the excitement and hope that dies with dashed dreams and goals, but being present, letting go of the fear and ego, and then accepting and building upon these curveball offers that come our way truly is the way to progress and move forward. 

There were many lessons learned this past month as we embarked on this journey in the unchartered waters of renovation, but overall the biggest lesson learned was that it’s only in the accepting and building upon the offers, as crazy and stretching as they sometimes are, that you feel the satisfaction and growth that deep down our souls are always craving. Looking at the completed unit with brand new flooring, cabinets, paint, and appliances, and hearing the delight of our tenants as they saw their new home, it reminded me of a quote by Gandhi who said: “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.” It’s as we accept and build upon both the seemingly insignificant AND the grandiose offers that come our way that we are growing and experiencing the satisfaction that accompanies such effort.

What is the secret to being charismatic?! What animal sound are we going to hear today? And what is the chief cause of failure? Find out today on the happiness playbook! Today we tune into Russell Brand for some wisdom on how to be more charismatic through the power of presence! We go deep in this episode on the first principle in the Play Theory principle lineup.

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We’re going deep today you lovely people. There are inspiring sound clips, practical grocery tips, and lots of feel good conversation. Join me at the pool of pondering as we marinade in the essence of life. 

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This Week’s PRO TIP is: To practice getting outside of yourself and your needs, for this week’s pro tip, the next time you go grocery shopping, ask the store clerk “What’s the largest checkout you’ve ever seen?” and note the response. Let’s see if we can make a subtle shift here.

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Remember that Life is a team sport, so let's play together!

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