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This is week 5 (our LAST week!) of our Play Theory Bootcamp! This week, we're focusing on how we can practice Looking Outward. Make others look good, Validate, and asking "What is needed?" are all ways to describe this principle. Come practice happiness with us over the next couple of weeks as we give you ACTIONABLE happiness drills to practice in your day-to-day life!
LaRee will guide us through a very thought-out Play Theory experience for you to combat the pessimism and negativity we find ourselves in these days.
Let's dive in.
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PLAY OF THE WEEK:
Practice saying "YES" and then contributing or building upon the conversation with others.
Come join the conversation and play with us!
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TRANSCRIPT
📍 Welcome to the happiness playbook, a podcast dedicated to the belief that life is a team sport. I'm your host, LaRee Florence. And this is our last week of our play theory bootcamp, where we're upping our happy game How did you do applying last week's principle except build saying yes.
Were you able in conversations to practice saying the word? Yes. And then validating something that was said before sharing any negative thoughts. One of our listeners, Michael Thomas shared how she was able to recognize that she could be better at validating other's ideas. Even if she couldn't immediately accept them.
She thought she could say something like I hear you, and I'm going to give this some consideration before I give them. She gave this example specifically, quote, another example is shutting down my husband's ideas. When first presented to me, I often mold them over and come back to him later in a more cooperative state of mind.
And I've been telling myself that I just need to process, but the reminder of the power of accept and build really makes me want to truly change that. I need to find ways to say yes and, or at the very least to say, I hear what you're saying. Can I take a little while to mull that over before responding unquote, thanks for the feedback, Michael.
Those are great observations. And please keep up the good work in seeking to change your knee-jerk reaction. A shift in mindset is the way to make that happen. So you're well on your way. In full disclosure. I know Michael pretty well. We spent 10 days on a boat in the Galapagos together, and she serves with me at take note troop.
She's a very generous person. I know, accepting and building is absolutely one of her superpowers that being said, because she took the time to think about and evaluate her mindset. She found room for improvement. That's why a happiness practice is so important. It's not a one and done like exercise or yoga.
You have to do it regularly to see results and like any skill you're trying to master, you have to practice it regularly with intention to improve. That's the power of the happiness playbook podcast. We're here to help you practice the skill of happiness by helping you with a proactive mindset, the fosters positive interactions with others that validates and encourages the principle of acceptance build.
While in conversation, if you can find something to agree with before stating a challenge or offering your opinion, you will build positive new relationships and improve existing ones. This is an idea that can take a lot of time to wrap your thinking around. Just like, as in Michael's example, she's familiar with play theory and knows the nano statement, accept and build, but by focusing on it, she could find another level to apply it to in her life.
It's not surprising. That and builds is a tough one to fully grasp. It's totally counter to our current fear-based defensive divide and conquer culture, which makes us so fear-based, it can be too frightening to imagine anything except a defensive stance. Isn't there a phrase in sports though? The best defense is a good offense accepting and building is just that you're leading out with positive.
Rather than hunkering down and anticipating the negative. I speak from experience. When I say it can be a tough mindset to accept. When I graduated from university, I was a counselor at a home for teens, just out of juvenile hall. It was demanding job that involved loads of training. There was one corporate workshop that introduced this idea of saying yes, instead of no, and even challenged us to eliminate the word, but entirely from our vocabulary.
I guess I didn't get it because I came home and totally mocked this concept to my husband, telling him how ridiculous that idea would be in practice on the job. Well, or should I say Welp as life so often? Does I got a second chance? Guess who organized that workshop that I attended, where I learned that valuable concept of acceptance built Sue Walden.
She was the founder of flash family. And she was the same person who had presented that idea of saying yes all those years before at that earlier corporate. Sometimes just because we aren't ready for something doesn't mean that thing isn't right. It just may not be the right time. So don't give up on this one, even if it feels uncomfortable or too hard, stay open to the possibilities.
All right. Before we get into today's practice, it's time for our team huddle. How are we doing? Did you see the link on our social media for a feedback? Look for the happiness playbook on Insta or the plethora page on Facebook and find our post with their survey link. All advancement requires assessment, and we need your feedback about how the happiness playbook is doing.
After a year of podcasts, we sincerely want this to be about supporting and serving our community. Please let us know how we're doing. You can also visit play theory.org and request a link to the survey. It'll just take a minute, really no time at all. We won't ask for your phone number or share it with anybody else.
So please take a moment and let us know how we're doing. Thank you to those who have shared review or left a rating, except for that one person who left a one-star that pulls us down out of our 73 rinks. We have one one-star. So instead of a five or a 4.9. Just so that everyone's real clear here. That means that you do make a difference without that one star we'd have a five-star ranking instead of a 4.9 ranking.
But I digress. Thank you for living a speed back already. If you have reviewed or ranked us on iTunes or made comments on the episode, webpage, it really means a lot to us. I think everyone wants to make the world a better place. Some of us get hung up on doing it in some huge way. When in reality, we can have the most impact in the simple things within our sphere of influence, like leaving a review that might help another person who really needs the wisdom we share to find the podcast.
It definitely puts fuel in our tank to keep going. So thank you all right. Enough with the team huddle. It's time to get on with our playbook. We're wrapping up our play theory bootcamp with the last of the four play theory principles look outward last week, I promised we talk about the last principle or what we like to call the sum in the play theory equation of life.
When you add, be present to let go and play and times it by accept and build you get lookout. A great way to sum up pun intended. This principle is with the idea, make your partner look good in life. We're surrounded with partners, some of our choosing and others we're stuck with regardless when we play on the same team with them, if they win, we win.
Look outward can also be summed up by one of Stephen Covey's famous seven habits for highly effective life. Think when. Rather than viewing everyone around you as an adversary, see them as a fellow traveler here on the planet, sharing this specific time and place with you. That really is a remarkable thing.
If you think about it, every person we cross paths with is a unique opportunity if we are open to it, but I digress. That's a rather deep dive. We don't have time for today back to the topic of looking at. Here's another angle you can take as a director of stage theater. I'm always reminding actors to make their partner look good.
Meaning their scene partner. Think about it. If the person in your scene isn't believable, then your scene isn't believable. And if you're in that scene, you aren't believable. And for an actor that's. Scripted theaters. One thing in unscripted theater, this principle is even more important. Last week, we talked about how accepting and building is the foundation of improv.
There's a story told about the late John Candy's audition at second city, a very influential hub of creativity, comparatively like the Harvard for comedians. A lot of talent is developed in this improv group. When John auditioned, his scene partner was trying really hard to pull out all the stops of funny and wasn't listening, let alone accepting and building on anything.
John candy was offering wisely. John stopped trying to rest the spotlight from the egomaniac. He was sharing the stage with and just started leaning in 120% to everything has seen partner was offering. Even if it wasn't. As expected with such an inwardly focused, seen partner, nothing magic happened. And John thought for sure, he hadn't made the cut.
It turned out that the directors let him know because he was willing to bend over backwards to try to make such a terrible scene partner look good. They wanted him in the cast. Let me repeat John Candy's commitment to accepting and building on whatever his scene partner offers. And his effort to make his scene partner look better than he was landed him the place in second city that became the launch of his career on Saturday night live and in the film industry, as he continued to try to make others look their best and look outward, he couldn't help, but look good in the process.
Ralph Waldo Emerson has said it is one of the most beautiful compensations in LA. That no, man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself, James and Barry, who was the author of Peter pan said it this way, those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves in theater.
It's pretty clear who our scene partners are. Have you ever stopped to consider who you're seeing partners are in line? Let's talk about the obvious ones like our spouses, our boyfriend, or girlfriend, our significant others consider then the poor logic in not making this person that we chose. Look good.
They'll absolutely be a reflection of us. Why wouldn't we want to represent them in the best light. Actually, I do have some ideas about that. After having years of therapy, there can be some deep seated insecurities that lead us to self-sabotage and I encourage anyone who struggles with this issue to get some professional help.
If you're not too far in the, remember your significant other is yours, not in the sense of ownership, but that you chose them. If you don't look outward and try to represent them in a positive light, that's like buying a new pair of shoes. And then if someone compliments you, you trash talk, the shoes, hold up a sec.
Didn't you buy the shoes? Didn't you choose the shoes from all the others available. Okay. I'm getting a message from my crystal ball of mind reading. Some of you may be thinking, okay. Sure. But sometimes we don't get to choose. I hear you. And yes, that is absolutely true. But think about it. If they're your partner, in some sense, any sense of the word they're on your team in your church group, a part of your family, then they're on your side and they're not there.
The opponent there, maybe other people have posted. Think about a pickable match. If you're playing on a doubles team, then you have two opponents across the line trying to thwart your every effort. So why and fight one more to their side by making an enemy of your teammate. Here's another angle on why look outward is so valuable.
Dr. Martin Seligman long ago, figured out that there are three types of happens. And let me check my crystal ball of mind reading again. What's that? Yep. We all want to be happy. We may have different ideas of how to get there, but we all want to feel happy. So here's the three types Dr. Seligman identified pleasure, satisfaction, and meaning let's break it down.
Number one. Pleasure feels great in the moment. We all know it's fleeting. We love that double scoop of chocolate, double fudge deliciousness, but once the cone is gone, so it's the pleasure. And we are more times than not left with regret. Number two, satisfaction. This happens as we use our unique gifts frequently.
This one's better than pleasure because it lasts longer and there's not the regret, but what about when we can't. Maybe we have an illness like chronic fatigue, or we can't find a pickleball court to play on that fits our schedule. A lot of folks spend a lot of time working out the logistics around this one.
That's not about thing. There is a better one though. And that's number three, meaning this is when we use our unique gifts for a purpose greater than ourselves. In this scenario, we're looking outward and trying to serve another person. It might not be the funnest way to use our gifts or talents, but it can feel the most appreciated way to share them and gives us the longest lasting feeling of joy and happiness.
William Blake said we are all looking for purpose. It is best found outside ourselves. He also said this about mankind's search for purpose and meaning. I sought my God and my God. I couldn't find, I sat my soul and my soul alluded me. I sought to serve my brother in his need and I found all three, my God, my soul, and the, I love that.
I hope you can hit, you know, 15 seconds back and replay that one in today's world. We're told, we'll find answers to the need to find purpose by looking inward, an article in relevant magazine addresses this idea, despite the fact that 91% of Americans agree with the statement, quote, the best way to find yourself is by looking within yourself.
Unquote. The articles, tile reads, quote, want to find yourself stop looking within yourself. Unquote, it's an interesting read that talks about how we really aren't going to find our purpose. If we're only looking inward, all leave a link in the show notes. Of course we do need to be introspective and self-care is absolutely essential.
If we're going to be able to care for us. But the idea that we'll find purpose without connection and interaction is ill-founded. We need each other to learn, to serve to love. And that is the root of our last play theory principle only when we're present with another person and we let go of our judgments and forgive our mistakes and step in to interact wholly while we accept and build upon one another another's ideas.
Can we truly see others and look beyond ourselves and outwards. Fred Rogers, the famous Mr. Rogers. If Mr. Rogers neighborhood had this down, pat each day on set after all the building and accepting and letting go and playing previously done to get to the place where the cameras were rolling. He would drop into the present moment and focus in on the camera lens, looking outward into the home of a small child.
He imagined there on the other side of that camera listening, as he shared something he hoped would serve and help. It's no wonder that Fred later became a trusted voice to assuage our fears after the tragedy of 900. With his powerful advice to look for the helpers, whenever there was tragedy or hardship, he promised we would always be able to find someone trying to help and serve one another.
I believe him as a theater director, I've learned that looking outward is truly a superpower over the years. I've seen some kids with stage. It's asking a lot to memorize long paragraphs and old English, and then to go out on stage and hope, you can remember it all while in front of hundreds of people, some of whom, you know, and you may be wearing some crazy costume or worse types and pumpkin pants and.
Every time, stage frights, reared its head. I have reminded the actor to look outward and instead of thinking and worrying about themselves to think about how to make their scene partner look great, or how to look outward and serve the audience by making sure they can hear and understand the message that's been prepared and Astra as Dr.
Solid. If the actor has found some meaning or purpose in the role that they want to share with audience they're even more empowered to perform. Well, one year our Shakespeare in the park was the Tempest. It's one of my favorite Shakespeare play. Some consider it autobiographical as it comes at the end of an illustrious career.
And the main character Prospero has this really powerful monologue about stepping away from the important work he has been pursuing for our staging. We had cast Prospero as prosperous a woman in the plot. Prospero sets all these things in action in order to provide a good future for her. At the end of the play, she has to say goodbye because her daughter has fallen in love and will be leaving her.
Well, our prosper or actress, Rachel Hodgson was a senior about to graduate and was facing the prospect of leaving her mother and stepping away into the great unknown future as we work together and connected the dots between the fictional prosperous experience and what she was going through. With Rachel's own mother's experience.
She was able to share a beautiful depiction of a mother's love and the hope juxtaposed by the pain of sending a child out into the world who, although well-prepared would be sorely missed back at home. As you can imagine, every single show as Rachel stood on stage and looked outward towards her mom's experience of having to say goodbye to her.
There wasn't a dry eye in the audience or performance actually won her an ele, a prestigious regional theater award. And more than that, much more long lasting by looking outward. Rachel was able to relate to her mom's experience, which brought them closer together. Look outward is essential for. Without it, our individual experiences contract into ever limiting one sided perspectives based solely on our own experience.
This of course is a false reality because we are all intimately related. Even the most selfish of us must come to see that our actions come back to affect ourselves. Ironically, in the end, looking outward is self-serving when we do good, we get good done to us. We are also the beneficiaries. Okay. That sums up the happiness equation.
When we think of others, rather than ourself, it cultivates confidence and a sense of purpose. As we turn outward and seek to make our partners look good, we end up looking great, generous intentions, build trust, and win-win thinking creates synergy. We could all use more of. For our play of the week. I'll leave you with a couple of Gamechangers.
You can pull out any time the next time you're with another person or pet. If you're blessed with a special four legged friend who has a personality that marries merits interaction, look at them and ask yourself, how can I add value to them? Maybe it's a word of praise. Maybe it's a warm smile or validating.
Look at them. See them with the Corona virus. We're hearing a lot about ICU's, which means intensive care unit. Listen again, though, I see you when we see each other, it is an invaluable form of caring and connection. Did you know that making eye contact releases a feel good brain chemical called. People are hardwired for connection.
And we can't do that if we're always looking inward, so care more about others, give them a little tender ICU care. Your workout this week is to consider the importance of looking outward notice when you're able to do it. And when you need to take some time for self focus or self. To really see results.
Think about someone on your team. Maybe it's a sibling coworker or your spouse, and take a few minutes and really think about what life looks like from their perspective. Find a few questions you can ask about their experience and take time to reach out and connect. Maybe it's a simple thing. Like how was it being the oldest in her family, or maybe you'll feel impressed to go deeper with.
What was it like when your parents divorced ask with sincere interest and then listen, validate their answer and check in with how you feel since you just made your partner look good. You'll probably feel great. Keep working on this mindset and practicing the skill. And pretty soon you'll be able to run a proverbial lookout word irony.
And if you want to go, the extra smile, look outward and help your happiness playbook teammates out here on the happiness playbook podcast. Join the conversation on our social media. Leave a review on iTunes. We would love to hear from you. And if you value what you've learned here, look outward. Think about others, you know, that would be benefited by listening to the happiness playbook and invite them to do the play theory bootcamp.
When we teach, we learn by looking outward and sharing the playthrough principles with others. We increase our awareness and understanding while also enhancing our ability to practice it. Life truly can be a win-win. We all want the world to be a better place. And this is how it has. One interaction at a time.
Now, as we wrap up our happiness bootcamp, let us know on play theory.org or on our social media. If you made it through all four principles and we'll send you a plethora sticker, you can put somewhere to remind you to keep going on your happiness practice and to remind you of what we're working on here at the happiness playbook.
Remember, as you downs has. A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes here at the happiness playbook. Consider us your personal happiness coach at the ready to help you develop the attitudes and mindset needed to achieve happiness. 📍
Next week, Neal Hooper will be back as our regular host and happiness. Extraordinary. So stay tuned and keep listening for more tips on how to up your happy game till then catch you next time.
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This is week 4 of our Play Theory Bootcamp! This week, we're focusing on how we can practice Accepting and Building. Validation of others, agree where possible, and having enthusiasm are all ways to describe this principle. Come practice happiness with us over the next couple of weeks as we give you ACTIONABLE happiness drills to practice in your day-to-day life!
LaRee will guide us through a very thought-out Play Theory experience for you to combat the pessimism and negativity we find ourselves in these days.
Let's dive in.
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PLAY OF THE WEEK:
Practice saying "YES" and then contributing or building upon the conversation with others.
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TRANSCRIPT
📍 Welcome to the happiness playbook, a podcast dedicated to the belief that life is a team sport. I'm your host, Larry Florence. And this is week four of our play theory bootcamp, where we're up in her happy game
this week's highlight reel is about the red head convention that takes place every year in the county.
Cork people with red hair have gathered every year in Southern Ireland for the Irish redhead convention. Held over three days, the celebrations include crowning the ginger king and queen competitions for the best red eyebrows and most freckles per square inch. Red hair is the rarest of hair. Colors and accounts are only 2% of the world's population.
Scotland has the highest percentage of natural redheads in the world with 13%. And can you guess who comes in second? If you guessed Ireland, you'd be correct. They clock in at 10% of the world's population. So that means 23% are in the British Isles. That's crazy. This festival was the idea of a red-headed brother and sister Jolene and Dennis Cronin.
I love it. They siblings cut together and did something really fun that thousands and thousands of people are. All right. It's time for our post-game analysis. How did you do with last week's principle? Let go and play. Did you notice when you were willing to let go and have fun? Did you notice when you weren't and when you felt foolish, what thoughts did you have about letting go of.
Before we get into our practice for this week. It's time for our team huddle. Wanna give a shout out and a thank you to the 166 new play theory. Facebook page likes. You can also follow us at the play theory. Well, it's actually the happiness playbook Instagram account. So thank you for connecting with us on social.
All right. It's time to get on with our play-by-play for this week's principle so far in our play through bootcamp, we've covered be present and let go and play. These two principles are often intertwined. As a matter of fact, it's an ongoing debate about which one we should teach. First, for example, when I'm playing pickleball and heaven forbid I hit it into the net.
If I don't let go of the mistake, I get stuck in the past replaying what went wrong. And then I ended up missing the next shot. That comes my way because I wasn't being present. I'll perform much better if instead of dwelling on the mistake, I let go and play and refocus on being present by literally keeping my eye on the ball as it comes off the servers pattern.
And focusing in on it, which brings me back to the present moment and helps me let go of the previous mistake. Not letting go is the antithesis of being present, but enough review last week I promised we talk about the play theory principle that started it all.
Some of, you may know that I'm the founding artistic director of take note troop, an award-winning afterschool youth theater program. We specialize in annual performances of Shakespeare in the park for cities of Rocklin, fulsome, and Auburn here in Northern Cal. We also have an award-winning improv team.
We're the only team that scored a perfect 100% in adjudication taking first place in yield improv competition, a improv competition that's affiliated with the Utah Shakespeare festival, but that's a whole other story at first glance, Shakespeare and improv seemed to be at polar opposites of the theatrical realm.
One is the pinnacle and scripted theater and the other is without any script or preparation at all, how did we come to do both and to do both very well? Well, when my oldest daughter was 13, she approached me about learning Shakespeare. And since we were homeschooling, I set out to teacher what started out as a cooperative of families in my back.
Spring the audience with a hose to recreate the waves at the Tempest grew into a regular long standing program that serves hundreds of families in our community. Jana Hargadon was my partner in starting out on this journey and she knew of an improv group in San Francisco called flash family that did apply theater or improv workshops.
She thought it'd be good for the cast to have a safety net to fall back on. If they forgot a line or made a mistake. And that made sense to me, even though the idea of unscripted theater improv was rather intimidating. And I really wasn't interested in the idea, but Jen insisted. And so we loaded up our cast of around 30 teenagers, drove into San Francisco to a second story, open warehouse loft to do a workshop, even though I had trepidations.
As I listened to Andy, the workshop leader, explain the guidelines for improv. I felt myself drop into a moment outside of time. As everything in the room fell away and to force outside of myself, communicated without voice pay attention. This is one of the most important things you'll ever learn. That's certainly got my attention for those familiar with improv you'll know the foundational rule who even knew there were rules to improv is say yes.
And let me explain in a made up scene where no one knows what's going to happen. Someone has to start it with something like walking on stage and saying, good morning. The scene partner would then say yes to being their mom and that it's morning if instead the other person in the scene rejects that and says something like, Hey, hold up.
I am not your mom. And it's 10 o'clock at night. Then instead of having something to build a scene on, they've both got exactly nothing. For example. Two actors step on stage to start an improvised scene. There are no scripts, no rehearsals, just an idea or prompt given in the moment, usually drawn out from the audience could be something pretty vague like school bus or Atlantic city or marshmallow.
The actors then use that idea to form something solid from the ethos of the present moment and their collective creativity sounds pretty crazy. And it is except it's the sanest most real thing we could ever think of because it's the only real thing each of us does every single moment of our lives.
I'm serious. Think about it. None of us rehearse living. We don't have a script. We don't have practices. We wake up and we go through each moment creating. As we go. And if there are others in our moment, then we get to create it with them. Instead of having a prompt, like marshmallow, maybe it's work, zoom meeting, or maybe unexpected encounter with your ex or even just boredom.
What do you do with those scenarios? How do you act in them? And here's the map? Just as staged improvised scenes are built around saying yes and, and building on ideas. So we're the daily minutiae of our lives. We progress and create as we accept the situation and build upon, instead of rejecting it or denying it or trying to demean it or control it or manipulate.
Those actions don't bear good fruit instead, try, accepting whatever the situation is. And then building on it. We used to call this third play theory principles say yes, and, but it's harder to explain. So we've distilled it down to its essence and instead call it accept and build, which is what you're doing in an improv scene.
When you say. To be clear by saying, except I'm not saying for example, that you accept a negative situation like abuse and just live with it. I am saying, except that it has happened and then move in the direction you want to go based on an honest appraisal of where you are. Another example might be living in denial of having.
Instead of avoiding a weigh in on the scale or acknowledging that you can't make it up the stairs without a break to catch your breath, make an assessment of where you are and then take steps to get where you want to be. If you don't ever acknowledge where you're at, you won't be able to chart a course to where you want to go.
Think about your map. You have to first list where you are before it can tell you how to get where you're going. Also, when there's something that's dangerous or threatening, of course, I want to make it clear. You don't have to accept that or say yes to that. You say no, because no stops things. What I am saying is that in our culture, we're more fear-based and apathetic than we need to be in.
We say no out of habit or fear when a yes or acceptance of at least part of the offer would build a relationship or move us towards a solution instead of further polarization and division. So now, you know, the very beginnings of how play theory came to be after that revel, a Tory experience in the workshop, I spent a lot of time cogitating on what was so impressive.
And then putting those ideas and principles into action. And that's how the play third principles came to be the really just what sports psychologists call relevant cues, meaning two to three actionable words that act as powerful triggers to influence our behavior in positive ways. Hopefully. These queues help us focus on specific actions that dramatically increase our ability to achieve our desired outcome, which in the case of play theory is a positive mindset that fosters creativity and positive collaboration.
Now for our play of the week, I'll leave you with a thought that is a total game changer. Think about our interactions with others as an exchange of energy in the martial art of Kung Fu the power is found in accepting and then redirecting energy that comes from an opponent rather than trying to block or stop it acceptance and saying yes, builds energy.
Well saying no stops. Just as in an improv scene in life, when we accept other's ideas and build upon them or redirect them, it generates constructive energy leaning in with enthusiasm and saying yes, when appropriate fuels, acceptance of self and others, and is the bedrock of validation. It's a great way of looking at life.
Give it a try. Did you notice the example of acceptance built in her highlights? What a wonderful way for this brother and sister to work together, to accept their hair color, that I have known some red heads that, that reject it they're embarrassed, or they don't like how they stand out from other people.
And instead these siblings accepted it and then built a wonderful opportunity for others who share the same characteristic to come together and to celebrate. I think that's such a fun example. When you start looking around, you'll see really great positive examples of this principle all around you.
Some of the really successful companies in our era, take this on as their, their mode of operation to get outstanding results. So watch for it. All right. Are you ready for this? Week's workout in conversation, practice. Saying the word. Yes. Then add more to whatever part of the statement you can agree with.
For example, yes. The election is very important and I'm confident we both want the best scenario for all involved. Did you see what I did there? I didn't have to agree on what vote I was going to make. We could agree that we both wanted good things to happen. So practice literally saying yes and then validate something that was offered before sharing any negative thoughts.
Another example, if I had to tell someone no, when they asked my permission, I could still say yes. Yes. I understand how important it is for you to take the car tonight. And I'm sorry, it's not available even though I'm not agreeing, you can see that I'm still validating the person's request. They might not be happy about it, but they'll feel more valued than if I just said, no, you can't have the car because.
Be sure to notice when you want to say no and ask yourself why, and instead look for ways to accept whatever part of the person's idea you can and build on that rather than focusing on the negatives. So often that's the first thing we go to is the problem. And we drill down on that rather than celebrating the positive that we.
Keep practicing the skill. And pretty soon you'll be able to clock and under four minute proverbial accept and build mile. And if you want to go the extra smile, try replacing no. And the word, but with yes, and for an entire day, can you go a full 24 hours without saying the word? Be sure to join our conversation on their plate theory, Facebook group, and direct message or comment on the happiness playbook, Instagram, and let us know how you did.
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Next week 📍 is our last play through. Which is the sum in the plethora equation of life. Be sure to tune in until then. Remember, life is a team sport and we're so happy to have you play with us here at the play theory bootcamp.
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This is week 3 of our Play Theory Bootcamp! This week, we're focusing on how we can practice letting go and playing. Leaving your ego at the door, taking risks, and having fun are all ways to describe this principle. Come practice happiness with us over the next couple of weeks as we give you ACTIONABLE happiness drills to practice in your day-to-day life!
LaRee will guide us through a very thought-out Play Theory experience for you to combat the pessimism and negativity we find ourselves in these days.
Let's dive in.
YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJCE2mr6QBhXUgeoQx4HnzA
LINKS:
https://www.sltrib.com/news/2021/08/16/utah-man-jumps-into-tank/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pbx1MVThTfg Shuffle Dance
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Kj3wWKjMSQ Floorwalkers Dance
https://youtu.be/3NomZw-KD34 Bollywood Dance
PLAY OF THE WEEK:
Laugh out loud for 20 seconds and take note of how it changes your emotional state.
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Remember that Life is a team sport, so let's play together!
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This is week 2 of our Play Theory Bootcamp! This week, we're focusing on the ability to be present. Mindfulness is another way to describe this principle. Come practice happiness with us over the next couple of weeks as we give you ACTIONABLE happiness drills to practice in your day-to-day life!
LaRee will guide us through a very thought-out Play Theory experience for you to combat the pessimism and negativity we find ourselves in these days.
Let's dive in.
YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJCE2mr6QBhXUgeoQx4HnzA
PLAY OF THE WEEK:
Find ways to Look Outward for your friends and loved ones (whether they are still here on earth or not!).
Come join the conversation and play with us!
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Remember that Life is a team sport, so let's play together!
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This is week 1 of our Play Theory Bootcamp! Come practice happiness with us over the next couple of weeks as we give you ACTIONABLE happiness drills to practice in your day-to-day life!
LaRee will guide us through a very thought-out Play Theory experience for you to combat the pessimism and negativity we find ourselves in these days.
Let's dive in.
YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJCE2mr6QBhXUgeoQx4HnzA
PLAY OF THE WEEK:
Find ways to Look Outward for your friends and loved ones (whether they are still here on earth or not!).
Come join the conversation and play with us!
WEBSITE https://www.playtheory.org
Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/playtheory/
Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1652343491608927/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/playtheory4life/
Remember that Life is a team sport, so let's play together!
